If you ask for what you want, and tell them what doesn't feel good, SEX WILL FEEL BETTER FOR YOU because it’s exactly what you ordered. And what better reward could there be than pleasure.
Exciting news- I've published my first "Busy woman's guide to improving her sex drive" that you can download by clicking here. It's a collection of 15 of the best tips I've learned over the last year or so whilst I've been hard at work trying to reconnect to my own sex drive.
Reblogged from the amazing http://www.ourkinkyadventures.com
Esther Perel, the fucking fantastic sex therapist, believes that "a crisis of desire is often a crisis of the imagination". She believes that what distinguishes human's from animals during sex is that human have this capacity for eroticism, which is caused by imagination. (FYI erotic means: "relating to or tending to arouse sexual desire or excitement") So if imagination is essential to desire, maybe, you're not broken, you've just lost the ability to imagine.
There's a movement online to share and share alike the sex blogs we've enjoyed this week. Since I've been blogging (three months) I've been introduced to a new whole world of sex positive people out there that I love discovering, and I know it's helping me improve my own sex drive. I do sort of …
Have you ever felt like you hated your partner for suggesting sex? I used to feel so angry at my boyfriend when he came on to me and tried to initiate sex. It was a surge of annoyance inside, frustrated that he was asking, angry that he'd even suggest it. Why? Because I felt like I was too busy to have sex.
Have you got men in your book group? Thrust a copy of this immediately towards them. They'll be embarassed, you won't know where to look, but his wife will thank you later!
Let me clear up the title of this article. Not are you having sex with Brussel sprouts? (Don’t worry if this is you, I’m sure there is a corner of the internet dedicated to solely that!). No. This article is about brussel sprout sex. Let me explain…
It was so hard just bending my mind back round to the task at hand. Sometimes I couldn't get wet because my mind was wandering elsewhere whilst I was in bed. It can feel really overwhelming, and distressing, to not feel like you are in the room. You desperately want to enjoy, relax, lose control, but in the end you feel tense, struggle to get wet, and don't enjoy it as much as you could.
After watching Sexology (which I'd thoroughly recommend despite the cheese) I realised that a HUGE part of sex is about letting go, relaxing, and just enjoying. One of the women in the film states: "In sex, you need to let yourself go... to the point of foolishness". This resonated with me so deeply. It's about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. How many of us allow ourselves to REALLY just let go?