There's nothing like resentment, anger, frustration or hurt between two partners to dampen any kind of sex drive. Excluding "make up sex", if the issues run deep and are unresolved, this could be whats dampening your desire.
I think it’s always a good plan to have those “serious chats” when you are doing something else to occupy your mind. Not sat opposite each other intensely staring each other down. Or in bed at the end of a long day (trust me, not a good plan!). But maybe whilst going for a walk, cooking dinner or washing up. That way there is no awkward eye contact, and you both feel more relaxed. I broke the conversation with the boyf whilst driving. It was good.
Today’s post is about deciding to make changes. The biggest thing I’ve learned so far about having a low sex drive is: you have to decide you want a good sex drive, and commit to improving it. For a long long time, I was waiting for a solution to my sex drive issues to drop from the sky. Genuinely.
one thing did not escape unharmed. My sex drive. I used to enjoy and want sex, but after the stress of everything, I felt like my sex drive was totally extinguished. It's pretty shit, I might add. So, here's how it feels to have "no feels"...
One of the issues with modern life is that we always want a quick fix solution to everything. A blog with that declares “in 30 days we can trampoline our way to a better sex drive”. Or “after you read this article on the benefit of blowdrying your pubic hair your libido will magically get higher” (or insert similar click bait headline here). The truth is, I don’t think its that simple.